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Assumptions
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I just
returned from the annual meeting of the
International Coach Federation. It's a great
time to connect with my colleagues from around the
world and spend time with friends who I respect so
much that I'm always pleasantly amazed and
grateful that I can contribute to them!
One of these is a coach I admire
tremendously who has pioneered the field of
shadow coaching (for more on shadow coaching,
please refer to the upper right hand
box ). She dropped a sentence that
really caught my imagination: "If you make
decisions based on your assumptions, they will
come true." As we head off to the holidays
to spend time with family and friends - the people
in our lives we may be carrying powerful
assumptions about - I wonder how our decisions and
interactions could be different if we engaged the
key people in our lives with fresh eyes and no
assumptions. And of course what it would
require of us to relinquish our safe and
well-developed assumptions in the first
place.
If this sounds interesting, here's
an approach you could take:
1.
Start with one person who is important to you,
and the relationship with them that you would
like to improve.
2. Take a few
moments to observe the assumptions you have
about her (i.e. "my sister always takes my
stuff" - well, maybe in high school, but now
she's 43...). Write these
down.
3. Consider what it will take
of you to let go of these assumptions, and stop
collecting evidence to prove your assumptions
right. Write these down
too.
4.
Choose to give up your assumptions for the time
being, say for Thanksgiving or maybe the
duration of the holiday season, and observe your
thinking for old assumptions cropping
up.
5. Approach this person with a
beginner's mind, enjoy yourself and feel the
difference that can show up in your body as
well, relaxed shoulders, feeling calmer and more
centered.
And
once you've given this a test drive in the
personal realm, you can take it on the road at
work. Imagine what letting go of your
assumptions can create for your professional
relationships as well...
Happy
Thanksgiving!
Michelle
Inspiration
Voters
I've been
giving a number of radio interviews in support of
our upcoming book, Winning Without Compromising
Yourself. It's led to many great
conversations about the end of wedge issues, and
how a candidate who can genuinely connect with
voters through authenticity and inspiration can
win in a landslide. (The concept works for
creating allies in business, too!) To hear
an election day interview, visit my website.
Copyright 2006 The Juncture
Company
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Shadow Coaching
Shadow
Coaching is just as it sounds. It's observational
coaching based on accompanying clients throughout their
day. Since we all can have blind spots in
ourselves and in our impact on others, this kind of
high-touch coaching has the potential for creating
unparalleled results. If you are interested in
having me shadow you or just want to learn more, contact
me!
michelle@juncturecompany.com
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Principal,
Lead Executive Coach
Michelle is
a resource for leaders in business and government around
the world, as they take their organization to
ever-greater heights while personally achieving whole,
thriving lives with courage and grace.
Please
contact Michelle to schedule a complimentary call to
explore how you can use executive coaching to get to the
next level and beyond.
michelle@juncturecompany.com
408-782-1703
Every day is
a juncture.
Choose your
legacy.
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Every day is a juncture.
Choose your
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