TJC Coaching Inspiration
ISSN: 1556-1445 
Number 16 / February 2006
 

Healthy Impatience

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If patience is a virtue and we're living and working at breakneck speed, do we have to give up our virtue in the name of profitability?  The surprising answer is probably not.  If you and your employees have a healthy impatience, you will refuse to remain stuck because when people put their ego aside and don't have to be the one with the answers, they can reach out for help and get unstuck quickly.  And it creates results - in fact, American Express is just one company rating its managers on healthy impatience. 

And the focus isn't solely on impatience.  It's also on healthfulness.

Unhealthy Impatience vs. Healthy Impatience

Just like me, you're probably all too familiar with the feeling of unhealthy impatience:  the panic, mind-racing, the pressure-based decisions and overreacting.  We lose our mindfulness and get caught up in the chaos of now, now, now!  A client told me today of a political leader who was the target of a back-channel attack.  What did the politician do in response?  He used the bully pulpit of his office to make a full denial of the false attack, which most people were unaware of in the first place.  His overreaction gave his attacker a free bullhorn and credence to the attack.  If only he would have shown healthy impatience and taken the bold move to go slowly and possibly not react at all.

Healthy impatience takes time for slowing down, thought and reflection.  If you don't have these tools, you'll be moving too fast to realize how or why you or your organization is stuck - if you can even identify it's stuck in the first place!  Since being stuck is often a motivation for people to choose coaching, I actually think of healthy impatience as one of its foundations.  Committing to coaching guarantees you space and time amidst the urgency of the day-to-day - you're creating a safe haven for your own clarity and vision.  Your coach holds this haven and provides a mirror for reflection as well as offering tools to build your own skills for alignment and leadership.  Remember that healthy impatience is not about having all the answers.  It's about a commitment to getting unstuck, into forward momentum and calling on key resources to do just that!

Enjoy yourself!

Michelle



Check out the Breakout Principle...

A breakout sequence occurs in four steps.

  • The first step is to struggle mightily with a thorny problem.  When you have put enough effort into the first step, you know because you stop feeling productive and start feeling stressed.
  • Step two involves walking away from the problem and doing something utterly different that produces a relaxation response:  meditate, go for a walk, pet a furry animal, sleep on it.  All of these actions bring about mental rearrangement that becomes the new foundation for insights and creativity via your body releasing puffs of nitric oxide that make you feel better and make you more productive.
  • The third step - gaining a sudden insight - is the actual breakout.  Breakouts are also referred to as "peak experiences", "flow", or "being in the zone".
  • The final step is the return to the new-normal state in which the sense of self-confidence continues.

 

From Are You Working Too Hard?, Harvard Business Review, November 2005.



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Michelle Randall

Principal, Lead Executive Coach

Michelle is a resource for leaders in business and government around the world, as they take their organization to ever-greater heights while personally achieving whole, thriving lives with courage and grace.

Please contact Michelle to schedule a complimentary call to explore how you can use executive coaching to get to the next level and beyond.

michelle@juncturecompany.com
408-782-1703

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